The life of a college student can be complicated. It’s a busy, overwhelming and confusing life. And, what’s a huge contributor to all of that? Dating.
Date: October 27, 2015
Staircase: Hemmingson Rotunda
Overheard: “I’m so singleeeee!”
First, I just want to say that I get you – lots of us do.
There is so much pressure that comes with dating in a college environment. For starters, there is the unspoken rule that, “you have to find your future husband/wife at [college].” That, in itself, can be terrifying. Not to mention pressure from friends, family and yourself. I know it can be hard, but try to give yourself some slack.
I think my favorite part of what I overheard this week was the word “so.” I mean, this person doesn’t consider themselves just “single.” No – they are far past that. They are so far beyond single. That one word pushes them past any realm of simply being single – they are so single. It’s almost like it implies that there is zero chance of them not being single in the near future – it’s almost a painful “so.” A longing “so.”
And, lots of people on this campus – and all over – get that. There are people here that feel your “so”-ness. But, have no fear, my fellow Zag, for there are plenty of Zags in the Kennel. And, to make it even better, I think plenty of those Zags also want to lose their singleness.
Take this as proof: I was on YikYak the other day and someone had posted this, “80 percent of Zags marry another Zag.” Then, this comment followed, “False. 80 percent of Zags don’t marry another Zag. 80 percent of Zags who date while at Gonzaga get married.” If people are thinking this hard about the chances of them marrying a person from this campus, I think there’s hope for all of us.
But, try not too pay to much attention to what you read on YikYak, or any social media source. With so much of it around us – YikYak, dating apps and so on – I think we have stigmatized dating. We’ve overcomplicated it – we seek advice from a vast, anonymous group students, and, in most cases, that large group doesn’t do much to help us.
Don’t overcomplicate it. Don’t think about it too much. Don’t analyze it too much. Just communicate. Just be yourself. Then, and only then, will you truly be able to lose your singleness.